Wedding Gifts

When it comes time to planning your wedding, we all know that you could probably care less about what color the bridesmaid's dresses are and as long as there's alcohol, what time you cut the cake or what your boutonnière will look like, isn't something you're losing sleep over. Okay, maybe you're not that pessimistic and you know that it's important for her to feel supported leading up to the big day…but seriously, roses, lilies or irises, it doesn't really matter, right?

If there's one thing you're looking forward to, besides being married to the woman of your dreams of course (this is always the safest answer…when in doubt ALWAYS go with this one) it's being able to pick out new dishes, sheets, shower curtains, spatulas, etc, right? Wrong. Bee bopping down the aisles scanning items for your registry is definitely not your idea of a good time.

So what can you do to ensure that you don't add ¨being a jerk on the day we did on registry¨ to her list of ammunition?

Leading up to the big day express how much you're looking forward to choosing items for your registry. Even if you have to fake it, there's definitely a reason why this is important. Take some time to discuss the color scheme you're going for in the kitchen and even suggest colors for your new bathroom. Once you've convinced her that you're excited about spending three hours at the store rather than playing Texas Hold 'Em, make the following suggestion: Choose most of the items together but then create two categories on your registry: wedding gifts for the groom and wedding gifts for the bride which allows you to choose three or four items of your own that you really want! By this time, she'll be so thrilled that she doesn't have to force you to scan the next registry item; you're guaranteed a few cool items. You probably won't have to stick to the house wares section but you might want to steer clear of the Sony Playstation you've been dying to get. The entire electronics section isn't out of the question, though, especially if you can convince her that the new digital camera you want is so you can capture the memories of your upcoming honeymoon. You can make sporting goods work, too if you've been wanting a new baseball mitt…even better if you can convince her that the basketball you selected will keep you out of her hair while she's trying to watch Desperate Housewives on Sunday night. If you can convince her that the five or six DVDs you added to your collection are for romantic nights together, you might be able to sneak in a video game or two.